Passion takes many forms throughout our lives, and it remains in many forms inside different areas of our lives.
Passion has a very interesting origin. To begin with, the Webster Dictionary tells us Passion is, “A powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger.” However, if we look at the origin of the word it has a very different meaning. Its root begins with the Latin word Patior. The Latin definition of Patior is, “to experience, to undergo, suffer, to put up with, allow, or submit to.” Strange is it not, how different those definitions are. For my writing, I am going to refer to the original more correct definition of the word Passion.
Love and marriage are two very different topics that come together in different ways, and yet when you mention either of the topics passion comes to mind. I am going to start with love.
First, I would like to clarify something; God does not have a chosen mate waiting for you. You are not going to miss your “soul mate”. If he did, we would not have free will to choose our own paths. As proactive believers, we have to quit sitting around waiting for God to bring along the person he has for us. That is a passive and lazy viewpoint. In chapter seven of Paul’s first letter to Corinth he tells us that it is not sin to marry, and it is not sin to be alone. That leads me to believe that God has not chosen a partner for us, he has left that for us to figure out. Love is a choice that we make. It is not a chemical reaction, or a magical moment when cupid takes aim and shoots an arrow in your ass. Love is a choice and it takes Passion to choose to love. If we use the origin of Passion, we find then that it means to suffer, to experience, and to submit to. Sexual desire is often confused for love. We feel the burning desire, we get married, and then…..
CRAP!!! I actually have to put up with this person. I have to choose to love them, because those
burning desires have turned into kids, bills, and work. Passion steps in when desire and “the
Honeymoon” ends. This type of passion is the one where we suffer, submit, allow, and undergo.
Paul tells us that if we can overcome our selves then we should stay single, and save ourselves
from the trouble. He also says that it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To have the
passion for love means that you are willing to suffer for and to submit to this person. It is all a
choice that has to be made over and over every day. Where we fall short is when we lack the
passion for love, or lose the passion for love. (I personally believe that we have forgotten how to roll up our sleeves and put in the hard work.)
Marriage takes a great amount of passion to see it through. Love, desire, happiness, and joy, all tend to come and go as life moves on. However, as we who are married have made the commitment, and sanctified it to God, we are here to fight it out. Marriage is where we see the origins of passion coming to true light. Sometimes we suffer through marriage, and other times it is easy. We definitely have to submit ourselves, and experience it. Without the passion for marriage in place, it cannot survive. Having that passion does not make it any easier, it simply gives you the strength to keep going. Once again, we can’t mistake sexual desire for passion, even in marriage.
God puts passion in our hearts, and he puts desires in our hearts for us to love and enjoy.
The things we find ourselves passionate about are the things we find that we succeed in. Some
people are capable of being passionate in love, in order to see it through, and others are not. How
much are you willing to suffer for? Do you have the passion for love to see it through? Love is a
fleeting thing that God has charged us to give to everyone. Passion is a strong thing placed in us
Let us look at passion that exists for ourselves. What about those things you where passionate about in High School; such as girls, cars, football, art, friend. How many of those passions did we let go of? I would dare to separate passion from desire in these cases. Passion is a lasting strength that is there long after desire, strength, and willingness are gone. Passion is what makes you come alive; it is that thing in your life that you would suffer for to the end. Sometimes we make passion into more than it should be. Sometimes we build our lives around a passion and then watch it all crumble. Take music for instance; many people are passionate about music, but not all people are going to be rock stars, or even make a decent living at it. Yes sometimes life does get in the way, but you also have to wonder if it was truly a passion, or a talent with a little bit of desire behind it.
So my challenge to you is to separate desire from passion and look at what things in your life you truly hold a passion for, look for those things that you’re willing to experience, undergo, suffer, put up with, allow, or submit to, because that is where passion lives and has the possibility to grow.